it seems that in the sugar world, the SDs that are most willing to be generous and stick to the NSA part that goes along with an arrangement seems to be... the married ones. yes, yes -once in a blue moon the guy who's young, attractive, and affluent will come along.. but honestly lets be real -the married guys is where the real sugar is at. theyre the ones who are the most willing to throw $$$ at young, pretty women for a chance to win them over and try to figure whats inside a 20-something year olds mind (and her pants haha). the question is though: do u put your morals on the back-burner in order to attain the matter/sugar/$$$/gifts/luxuries these wedded guys are willing to hash out? i just feel like i might be setting myself up for bad karma and paranoia with my own husband when i finally say "I do." is anyone on the same boat as me with this?
at this point i am in a conflicting situation. let me introduce MrLawyer (briefly, for the fact i have been mentioning men and then they never seem to come up again in any other posts bc well.. we just lose touch and i realize theyre not what i want from a SD. i.e. MrAll-Star).
MrLawyer and i met at a nice restaurant in the hotel he was staying at. he had contacted me before on the site and at our meet reminded me that i had initially blocked him after we exchanged a few e-mails (oopsy hehe). but had created another profile recently and decided to contact me 1 more time since he was coming into my city for business. i had an amazing salad, and then a salmon pasta dish that i took home for dinner that night *side note: i like to order a large, meatless salad to fill me up during an initial meet bc usually my nerves supress my appetitite anyways. but i order a lovely entree too. so by the time ithe entree comes i am always full already from my salad so i get to take the entree to-go and always end up with lunch AND dinner from one meet. maybe a bit tacky? oh well* so towards the end of our meals he tells me to reach my hand under the table to grad something from him. as i clasp my long fingers around what he is holding i feel a HUGE wad of cold, hard, cash. SWEET! he points out how i blushed when taking it bc i mean, it is a bit embrarrassing being handed money sometimes...but i'll just have to get over that :) we finally part and agree we enjoyed ourselves and he'll get in touch with me. i hurry off to the restroom to count the moolah and pull out lots and lots of $20's and altogether count $400. not too shabby for a first meet.
so ive come to the conclusion that the married men are the most generous (as of now i feel). TheRussian and MrLawyer both were married and both gave me money on our first meet. though TheRussian was a flake and pretty much played me (live n' learn) but im hoping i will be able to establish something more long-term with MrLawyer. we've been emailing to find a date when we are both free to meet again... he lives out of state so we'd have to fly... so until then i will update.and in the mean time i guess i will have to set aside my feelings of guilt for mingling around with a taken man and learn from them maybe what they are not getting from their wives that makes them turn to this lifestyle... so i dont do the same with my husband... if i ever even want to get married after living this SB secret lifestyle : /
ps- LatinLover and i are meeting saturday.. he has been the SD that i seem to have been having steady meets with and is becoming more of a friend-type of thing rather than a SD. kind of annoying but who doesnt need 1 more friend who sometimes takes her shopping and to shows and to dinner? lol
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I don't feel too bad about dating married guys because I truly believe that getting something like this out of your system can actually help a marriage. It's understood that a sd/sb relationship is NSA and married men understand this more than single or divorced men, in my opinion. For some reason, I tend to attract divorced guys and have the best relationships with them. I guess the stress from their previous relationships is gone so they want to treat someone who is easygoing and young and fun as well as possible. :)
ReplyDeleteIn my experience you are correct in that the married men are the most generous. Sometimes I feel a bit guilty for going after the married men, but really it gets easy to put behind you once the sugar starts rolling in. Yes, Karma is a bitch but....I don't plan on getting married in the future :-D
ReplyDeleteI don't think there is anything wrong with having a sd/sb arrangement with a married man. Now what would be absolutely atrocious is if you fell in-love with one without getting anything out of it, lol. Bottom line is: ALL MEN WILL CHEAT EVENTUALLY. Keep that in mind, it will never change. So the best thing to do when you do get married is to make sure you marry a guy that has other qualities (money being on the top of the list of course) that you like that can help you look the other way when he has a fling.
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